Faux Friends Part II (wolves pretending to be sheep)

 You talk, shop, break bread and discuss everything under the sun.    Their smile is bright and their words are smoother than butter.

 They hate you.

 Hate is a strong word. They don't really like you. How bout that?  But seriously, they probably hate you.

 Shhhhhh....that's a secret you are not supposed to know. That  smile  is really a frown turned upside down.
 
 If you live long enough, you will at some point in your life experience a faux friendship. It does not matter how nice you are or your age because faux friends are predators that don't discriminate.

A faux friend is very hard to discern. It is the proverbial wolf in sheep’s clothing. The wolf rarely looks like a wolf. It looks like a sheep. It hangs out with sheep and pretends to be a sheep. A faux friend is a wolf wearing a sheep costume.

It is a classic war tactic for an enemy to destroy from the inside. The only way this is possible is to get close to you. Remember the old saying to keep your friends close and your enemies closer? 

Sometimes in our circles of friendship, there is a Judas. A faux friend will kiss you and then try to destroy you. Your enemy is often someone close to you because those are the ones that know all of your secrets. Faux friends have mastered the art of masquerading as something they are not. 

We hear what people say and we also hear what they don’t say, but what we don’t notice is that what a person doesn’t say is sometimes more profound than the words they speak.

The clues can be obvious and it is easy to dismiss red flags, rather than believe what your eyes are showing you. This is the time to pray for discernment.  When your antenna goes up, don't push it back down. Your antenna is up because there is an evil wind blowing no good and you feel it. 

The difference between a real friend and a faux friend is the heartbeat that person pumps for you. A real friend speaks life when you are in a place of darkness. This type of friend gives freely without expecting anything in return. They want to deposit something in you, rather than take it away. They walk alongside you to encourage you and behind you to push. They show you who they are by what they do. What  separates the real from the fake is action.

Your real friend wants the best for you and wants you to reach your destiny in life. The faux friends ultimate goal is to see you fail and rejoice if it happens. They are great at broadcasting your failures and whispering your success. 

A real friend does not leave you when your life falls apart, or flee because your life is fabulously golden. A true friend is there in all seasons “they stick closer than a brother” (Proverbs 18:24) A real friendship takes work. It is easy to click the like button on Facebook, scroll through pictures or say an occasional word, but the real work happens offline.

Love is a verb.

Action.

No person can call themselves your friend without the actions that back up their words.

Faux friends flatter you with beautiful words. What they say sounds delightful, but it is the equivalent of opening a pretty package and the box is empty.  They flatter you with words, but it is the razor blade underneath what they say that should give you pause. 

Sometimes a real friend can allow jealousy to turn them into a faux friend. More often than not, the faux friend always had a negative seed inside of them and with the right fertilizer, the real person manifested.

Bitter pill to swallow.

So sad but true.

If you are a keen observer of people or have been burnt a few times, it is easier to be acutely aware of someone’s true persona. Think of it like someone spraying  perfume on a trash can. The stench will seep through eventually. 

Just because they smile, say nice things to you and quote bible scriptures does not mean they are your friend. Recognize that your faux friend is as cunning, devious and ruthless as your gut says they are.  Even if they are not actively plotting against you, a faux friend will always be a thorn in your side. If you have even one in your life, that’s way too many.

Past behavior is a great predictor of future behavior. Some of the telltale signs of faux friends are:

• They are in a competition with you and secretly jealous. Everything is about one upsmanship
• They admire what you bring to the table and secretly hate you for it
• They take every ounce of personal information you share and bank it up to use against you at a later date
• They take great delight in sabotaging you or things you are trying to accomplish
• They are for you while they are in your face and against you as soon as you turn your back
• They do things that are mean spirited and vindictive
• They lie on you or about you by painting a false picture of who you are to other people
• They are the first ones to tell you something negative someone said about you
• They flee the moment you have trouble in your life
• They are secretly happy when something bad happens in your life

Your faux friend operates in a covert manner, which makes it very hard to discern their true intent. One of the biggest tip offs of a faux friend is that their words often don't line up with their actions. They will do just enough to make you second guess yourself and linger in a state of confusion. Trust your instincts.

It is better to have an honest enemy, rather than a faux friend. Both are a danger to you, but the most destructive is the enemy pretending to be your friend. Remember, just because they are by your side does not mean they are on your side. 

You know a tree by its fruit. An apple tree should not have lemons growing on it.

Protect yourself by being careful who you let into your inner circle and be certain that anyone in that circle has earned the right to be there.

Have you encountered faux friends in your life? Wolves in sheeps clothing?

I hear a Symphony...

Happy Monday! I hope your weekend was as good as mine was:-) I had the great pleasure of taking my son to his first concert of classical music. We experienced an amazing performance of Carmina Burana by the LA Master Chorale. It was so amazing to take my son to see a  symphony and let him enjoy a taste of classical music. 

This post is picture heavy because I wanted to showcase my little renaissance man and the amazing architecture and setting of the concert hall:-)  My son Kaden is quite the ham and went into fashion model mode when I snapped some photos of him outside the concert hall. I think he looks quite dapper, but I might be a little biased:-)

As I mentioned in my last post, I will be posting a part II to the Faux Friends post I wrote a while back. Check in Wednesday evening to read it. Trust me, you need to read both posts. To prepare yourself for part II, read part I first by clicking here .

And back to the Amazing Disney Concert Hall. Wow! What a place! The look on my sons face was priceless and every time he heard something he liked he would squeeze my hand. Their was some dramatic acting and ballet to accompany the classical music and it was so awesome. 

I am glad that my son and I get to share these types of experiences together. I always carry a camera everywhere I go because my parents didn't take a lot of pictures when I was a kid, so I want to make sure my son has lots of great photos and memories to cherish the rest of his life. If you have children, do you take lots of photos? And if you don't have kids, do you still like to document your life in pictures?

 The architecture is amazing. Right?

 My son might be only 6, but he definitely has some swag. Hmm? I wonder who he gets it from? LOL

Classical music is something I think all children should be exposed to. What do you think?

Doesn't Kaden look handsome?

From the moment we arrived until the last melody of the orchestra, we were captivated

 

Hat and Scarf: Fashion District, Leather Jacket, Leather Jacket: Burlington Coat Factory, Black T-Shirt: H&M, Jeans: JC Penney

Who can resist that smile? 

 I wore layers of black accented with a few bursts of color and a comfortable pair of riding boots perfect for us to walk around and take in the sights surrounding the concert hall

I don't think my photos do this place any justice

 I think purple is a great accent to orange

Every square foot is aesthetically pleasing (sorry for the blurry photo)

 Hat: gifted, Orange Scarf: Macys, Black Cardigan: Heavenly Couture, Purse: Ebay, Boots: Macys

 The LA Mass Chorale is making preparations as guests begin to arrive for concert

Such dramatic and soothing music

 The interior is just as amazing as the outside of the concert hall

 Simply amazing aesthetic and gorgeous natural lighting

Me and my mini me:-)

This adorable little boy is my Sonshine:-)

Children are a great recipe for happiness:-)

Light and Fluffy Buttermilk Pancakes

 There is absolutely nothing like waking up to a hot fluffy stack of pancakes. Pancakes are the ultimate breakfast comfort food and I love whipping up a batch on the weekends and savoring the butter melting on top and the maple syrup dripping down the sides. They are very easy to prepare and a great way to surprise your family in the morning:-)

My favorite way to eat pancakes is with syrup, but they are delicious topped with a fruit compote like cinnamon apples

Pancakes always make me feel like I am eating breakfast for dessert:-)

A great maple syrup really enhances the taste of pancakes

They are so good that you can't help but be greedy

Ingredients 

3/4 cup buttermilk 

1 cup all purpose flour

2 tablespoons sugar

1 teaspoon baking powder

1/2 teaspoon baking soda

1/2 teaspoon salt

1 egg

2 tablespoons butter melted

1 teaspoon vanilla

Nonstick cooking pray

(Makes 8 pancakes, but recipe can be doubled)

Directions:

Mix the flour, sugar, baking powder, baking soda and salt together in a large mixing bowl. Mix the egg, buttermilk and vanilla together. Add the dry ingredients to the wet ingredients and whisk until most of the lumps are gone (a few lumps are ok)

Heat the griddle or a large frying pan on medium heat and coat with the cooking spray. Pour 1/4 cup batter when and cook until bubbles appear on pancakes and then flip to other side and cook until golden brown.

Bon Appetit!